I haven’t been in an intimate relationship since 1993. I have taken the last 19 years to focus on inner healing and spirituality. My birthday is April 2, 1958. I think I am a double Aries and Virgo. I’ve been married 3 times but none of the marriages lasted very long, under 2 years. I was so moved by your response to E C’s question that I’m hoping you might have some insights to share with me regarding this time in my life to find love, romance and marriage. Is it a good time? I would love to be in a loving, harmonious and deeply fulfilling intimate relationship. (LB)
It is so interesting to notice how likely a natal Saturn in the 7th house of partners describes a later marriage being the happy, successful relationship of a lifetime. You do have Jupiter ruling your Sagittarian 7th house, meaning that you will always have the opportunity to find a partner who will want to be with you; already clearly operative with three past marriages. You are an Aries Sun with a Virgo Moon and Gemini rising. It is common for someone with Gemini rising to move from one relationship to another as they learn from each getting to know what they really want and need in a partner. You have wisely taken time to mature, develop your spirituality and take responsibility for your own healing which makes it now possible to be a conscious partner at which point you can attract a conscious partner.
In 2 ½ years transiting Saturn will enter your 7th house, which is likely to mean a marriage for you. Your current serious inquiry into your relationship future, as well as recognition that you do want a partner and can describe what you want in a relationship, are signaled by transiting Saturn conjunct your natal Jupiter for the last nine months. You are ready! Now it is just a matter of when. Transiting Jupiter will trine your natal Jupiter next spring, your solar arc Jupiter will conjunct your natal Saturn in your 7th house in three years, your solar arc Mercury (Mercury rules your 5th house of romance) will conjunct your natal Saturn in the 7th in two years. I feel very confident that you will be married again in two to four years. Your progressed Moon (emotional needs, awareness and readiness) is now in your 5th house of romance and will be for the next 2 ½ years which is exciting. A romance may even begin next spring as your progressed Moon squares your 7th house Saturn at the same time transiting Jupiter conjuncts it. All that you have done will pay off now that you know yourself, know what you want and are at the time in your life that is attuned to your life plan!
I was born on August 2, 1965. I am 47 years old and wonder why it is so hard for me to make GOOD friends. I either attract ones that become critical of me or they are LIARS. Will this pattern ever change? I am happily married to the most wonderful man in the world (12/10/63) who is an angel. My daughter is also a true blessing. Please help me figure this out. I am to the point of thinking that I am better off without any female friends in my life other than my sister…HELP. (LS)
Often we don’t realize that sibling relationships are found in your 3rd house, child relationships are found in the 5th house, spousal relationships are found in the 7th house ,while friends are found in the 11th house. Each of these relationships is genuinely different, with success in one arena not necessarily any guarantee of success in the others. For you, your husband is described by your Jupiter/Neptune as the co-rulers of your Pisces 7th house. These two rulers are quincunx to one another which does require adjustments for both of you but can and does work well for you due to Jupiter’s trine to your Moon/Mars (emotions, needs and sensuality) while your Neptune is trine your Saturn (longevity and loyalty). Your daughter is described by your Saturn, the ruler of your Capricorn 5th house, which is trine (very positive with a natural and achievable ease) Neptune suggesting that your daughter is not only a Neptunian, spiritual blessing but there is a soul bond between the two of you. Your sister is described by your Mars/Pluto, the rulers of your Scorpio 3rd house. Mars is conjunct your Moon trine Jupiter, while Pluto is in your 12th house conjunct your Venus/Uranus opposite Saturn. Notice that each of these relationships is described by a trine, Neptune contact, 12th house position and or a Saturn contact emphasizing soulful connection, loyalty and the positive qualities you experience in these relationships.
Of course, there are other aspects and complexities to these planets, but positive ones dominate and are available to build these caring relationships that bless you. Your friends are described by your Moon, the ruler of your Cancer 11th house. Your Moon is conjunct your Mars trine Jupiter which says to me that you can find friends who will be close, dynamic and encouraging as you share personal, active, adventurous and fun experiences. However, you do have your Leo Sun in your 11th house squaring your natal Neptune, suggesting that you may have unrealistic expectations of friends, get involved too quickly without assessing if these people are sincere and grounded, and may be letting them pick you rather than you taking more responsibility and care in the selection. The dishonesty or deception (lying) is not uncommon with a square (conflict aspect) from Neptune. Note that your Sun does not trine or sextile any other planets, which is why this has not been easy for you. It is important to approach this area of your life from the Moon in Libra since you as a Sun in Leo and Moon in Libra do want and would benefit from and enjoy female or male friends. It is also important to take a close look at all of your Virgo planets in the 12th house (Mercury, Venus, Uranus, and Pluto) as well as Virgo rising. Virgo Virgo can be too critical of oneself or others which you may be projecting toward friends due to their 12th house position. As transiting Saturn moves into Scorpio in October and begins to square your Sun in the 11th house, you can begin to meet new friends taking your time to get to know them before you become too close. Don’t give up!
