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Mars Needs Women: The Key to Mastering Mars Retrograde

By Dana Gerhardt

 

 

Mars retrograde (October 30 to January 12) describes an 80-day period when action can go haywire and erupt in mayhem—as the archetypal warrior is not at his best.  Mars—the ultimate “doer”—needs his rest. Every two years, he requires these ten and a half weeks to cool his engines and replenish his battle-worn heart.

Yet for all the other archetypes in the psyche, life goes on. People must keep up with their doing. It’s this reality that defines the central Mars retrograde challenge:  How do you handle life’s daily aggravations when your ‘doer” is feeling raw & wild—or injured, inept & depleted?  How do you strive, compete, and win when your warrior is compromised?

Venus retrogrades challenge us to transform; Mars tests our emotional mastery. Unconscious action during his retrograde can reap disastrous rewards. As when during the last Mars retrograde tennis rock star Novak Djokovic (the #1 seed and favorite to win the US Open) was  ejected from the tournament as Mars rolled into his retro station.

It was a little thing. Frustrated at losing his serve, Djokovic hit a ball in anger and accidentally struck a line judge in the throat. She dropped to her knees and Djokovic’s 29-match winning streak abruptly ended, along with his bid for an 18th Grand Slam title.

Mars is the keeper of our inner heat—our raw masculine power. He can fuel our victories and/or erupt in destructive violence. He’s a protector and a bully. But during the retrograde, his fury can be as ill-timed and dangerous as the human-caused fire, whipped by wild winds, that just destroyed over 2400 homes and businesses in my valley.

The anger of Mars retrograde is different from Venus’ fury. Hers is deep and transformative; it collects for months underneath her pleasant veneer of acquiescence. Venus is meant to transform during her retrograde and come out fighting. But Martian anger has no such deep meaning. Its fire is a machine stuck in the “on” position. Easily petty and superficial, it’s raw power in a frayed container. The depleted warrior can’t control his impulses. He’s the archetype inside that’s most likely to go berserk.

A warrior in battle mode for too long can’t be trusted in the community.  During Mars retrogrades, the masculine impulse needs to be re-humanized.  The driven and combative part of our nature needs to reconnect to the heart.  The warrior can’t do this on his own.  That’s why Mars needs women. During his retrograde weeks, the Divine Feminine–represented by Moon and Venus–must lead.

 

How Venus Tames the Wild Retro Beast

This scene in Sandro Botticelli’s “Venus and Mars” (c 1485) is just what you think it is.  These two have just had sex in a grassy glade surrounded by bushes and trees. Mars—the God of War—is spent. Smiling satyrs carry away his weapons. Botticelli gives Venus the power position. The Goddess of Love commands from atop a red pillow (his color), as he lies unconscious and vulnerable, wrapped in (her) pink.

Make what you will of her expression—curious, frustrated, thoughtful, or indignant—art critics have debated this for years.   Yet the overall message is clear: Love conquers war. The way to tame a warrior is with pleasure. You halt him with beauty, receive his heat, and tire him out with love.

Myths around the world have taken up this theme and come to similar conclusions. In Gilgamesh,  one of the world’s earliest written epics, the wild man Enkidu—raised by animals—is meant to become the king’s companion. But he has to be tamed first. So the king sends Shamhat—a sacred prostitute with soft skin—to seduce him away from his primitive life.  Shamhat (meaning “the luscious one”) has sex with the wild man. After a week of their lovemaking, his raw animal nature evolves. He acquires the sensitivity and awareness of a human.

Recently new fragments of the poem have been discovered. Apparently, it wasn’t just one week of sex—it was two!  After the second week of their lovemaking, Enkidu is further civilized.  He accompanies Shamhat to the temple and eventually the soft-skinned woman becomes so important to him, they marry.  Through Venus—the warrior becomes fully integrated into society.

Four thousand years later, the story repeats (as archetypes do) in the schlock 1967 film, Mars Needs Women.  Martians have invaded the Earth to save their civilization. With fertility problems on the red planet, their best hope is to have sex with earth women. Disguised as earthlings, they choose the healing powers of a homecoming queen, a stewardess, a stripper, and a Pulitzer-Prize-winning scientist.

The same archetypal story lives inside us too: in the dynamic between our own civilizing force, Venus, and our inner brute, Mars.  If your raw animal nature erupts during the Mars retrograde, you’ll find the antidote in your Venus–in whatever brings you peace and pleasure.  As a general rule, gazing at something beautiful will do it.  So will spent time with nature.  Genuine kindness can do it.  As can genuine gratitude.  Of course literally having sex can be the ticket.  But remember sex is a powerful metaphor.  It’s about the play of life force energy. There are infinite ways to engage this, which is the source of the popular phrase “It’s better than sex!”

Look for activities that take you into your senses.  Whatever pleases your heart will likely relax your brute.  Maybe you let your “luscious one” dance.  With my 3rd house Venus, reading Rumi can do it for me–as can spending time in my garden, literally smelling the roses. It helps to know the house retrograde Mars transits in your chart, but even more useful is knowing how to awaken your Venus.  Let her lead through these weeks.  Consult her sign and house (and my Venus links below) for clues.

Cooling the Blaze with the Moon

When modern military groups release men who have been in battle or have been prepared to enter battle back into regular society without reducing the warrior fury within them, they violate old rules of humanity and turn the fire intended for their enemies on their own people.  War is a state of frenzy subject to recurrent outbreak…
Michael Meade, The Water of Life

Ancient myths around the world depict how to properly return soldiers to their societies. This is usually women’s work. To the extent a culture doesn’t acknowledge the importance of women’s work—in particular, of emotional nurture—its protectors will suffer. Rates of suicide, substance abuse, and mental illness will be higher for that society’s veterans.

Emotions are the Moon’s realm. Water is her favorite medium. According to a wonderful Irish myth, it’s water that will guide us into reducing the frenzy, fight, and fear of the battle-worn warrior (during Mars retrograde, most of us are in this situation).

Cuchulain (pronounced “coo-hoo-lin”) was a young Irish warrior determined to make a name for himself. Driving his chariot home after killing three of the realm’s most formidable foes, he can’t stop himself. He sees 16 wild swans in flight, stuns them all with his slingshot and ties them to fly above his chariot. He sees a herd of wild deer—faster than his own horses.  He runs them down on foot, catches two giant stags and harnesses them to his chariot, alongside the three bleeding heads of his enemies.

“Yikes!” says the King when he hears this news. Quickly, he sends out the village women, naked to the waist, breasts exposed. This sight slows Cuchulain so that the village men can plunge him into three successive vats of cold water. The water in the first cauldron boils and bursts apart. The second boils and bursts too. Finally, Cuchulain is submerged in a third vat. The water simmers for a bit then cools. The warrior is ready to enter the town.

Breasts are the Moon’s weapons.  Michael Meade suggests they help to awaken the warrior’s memory of his humanity—of being an infant suckling at the breast of a woman. The vats of water suggest a metaphorical return to the womb, to the experience of floating safely, of being nourished, supported and held. Being dunked in the vats of water moves the warrior from reactivity into patience, from rage into calm.  This allows our inner Mars to let his vulnerability, dependency, and trust surface–essential ingredients for a heart-centered human.

Water is a receptive medium. And being receptive to whatever shows up is the easiest way to make this myth practical. We must make it our business to slow down the warrior and receive him. As a society, we must receive our veterans, giving them the time, space and means to heal.  As individuals, particularly during Mars retrograde, we must pay attention to the furies inside ourselves. We must listen to whatever fire rages within until it cools down.

Why are there three vats?  Three is a magical number that simply means “long enough to get the job done.” When dealing with your own irritations and furies, that means you listen until the temperature changes.  If your listening makes things hotter, you’re likely adding to the story with your thoughts.  You’re talking more than receiving.  Better to just notice, feel, and receive the energy–as water does–without judgment, impatience, or righteous words.

You become a vat.  Cauldrons are a feminine image of containment.  They’re a metaphor for giving yourself the time and space to heal. To drop yourself into cooling water,  all you really need is time, space, and your breath.  The archetypal Mother will do the rest.  Plunge into your feelings, but be still.  Quiet the mind, track the progress of your inner heat, until you find yourself floating in a new, healthier space.  This is the Moon’s magic for Mars.

 

Know your Divine Feminine powers!  It’s counter-intuitive–but the best way to get the most from Mars retrograde is to deepen your awareness of your Venus and Moon.  For this you’ll find great support and unique insights in my Moonprints and  Venus Unleashed reports!  Buy both and get a discount.   The Moon and Venus are two of the three essential ingredients to your happiness.  Learn how to use them in The Astrology of Bliss.

More on Mooncircles: 

Can’t relate to your Venus?  I wrote this for you! 

How to Process World Grief without Drowning

The Deeper Meanings of Covid-19

 

 

 

Filed under: Chart Play Tutorials

About Dana Gerhardt

A popular columnist with The Mountain Astrologer since 1991, Dana Gerhardt is an internationally respected astrologer. She has lectured extensively and written for astrology publications on several continents. Her ongoing passions are the moon and living the intuitive life. Dana worked for many years in the corporate sector, where she observed the undeniable influence of natural cycles. She graduated Phi Beta Kappa, Magna Cum Laude from Occidental College in Los Angeles and did graduate work in literature at Columbia University and CSULA. Dana can be contacted by email.

Comments

  1. Manuela Leite says

    Nov 24, 2022 at 3:17 am

    Dana. Thank you for this great mesage. I´ll keep in my heart. , pushing
    me, to follow your mesage. I understood the really meaning,

    Have a nice thankgivings day,

    A big Hug
    Maria

    Reply
  2. Maria Rebelo says

    Nov 22, 2022 at 3:15 am

    Absolutly loved each single word!

    Thank u so much for the way you weave the story of planets with mythology and deliver a delicious tale that shall remain as wisdom in my soul!

    Reply
    • Dana Gerhardt says

      Nov 22, 2022 at 4:49 pm

      Thanks, Maria!

      Reply
  3. Florentina says

    Nov 22, 2022 at 1:11 am

    Oh, I love this article Dana! I miss to talk with you!
    Big hugs, Florentina

    Reply
  4. Mary Tamraz says

    Sep 30, 2020 at 7:11 am

    Such an insightful and inspiring expression of the power and need for balance through the Divine Feminine.

    Lovely writing dear Dana ♥️

    Reply
  5. Jane Hawley Stevens says

    Sep 30, 2020 at 6:39 am

    I always love your writing style and messages. Thanks for taking the time to share them. So sorry to hear about our valley!

    Reply

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Astrologers use a variety of house systems, or methods of dividing up the sky into twelve sections. I use the Porphyry house system; another popular house system is Placidus (this is the default on https://astro.com). If the chart I send you looks different from what you are used to seeing, then likely a system other than Porphyry was used. Whole signs, Equal House, Regiomantus, and Campanus are examples of other systems. If you find all of this confusing, do not worry. It is likely not critical to your report.

m  Conjunction:  Like peas in a pod, planets in conjunction tend to come from the same place. They act together, but it’s also hard to tell them apart. This aspect can increase talent, focus, and intensity (“two are better than one”). Or one planet can disappear as the other dominates. Their connection feels so natural, it’s easy to think everyone blends these planetary energies just as you do—but mostly, they don’t!.

p  Sextile:  Planets in sextile are compatible, though without any fireworks. This aspect doesn’t demand your attention. It quietly presents an opportunity. You can join these archetypal forces. Donna Cunningham has called this the “Oh, that!” aspect, because that’s generally what her clients say when she describes their benefits.  To get the most from sextiles you need to actively work them.

q  Square:  Squares are wild and wonderful—but difficult too. The power struggle between these planets was likely defined in your youth, when they were impossibly challenging. People are usually aware of their squares. They force the issues that make you to grow. And that’s their gift. They ensure you learn your lessons. When you rise to the occasion, they bless you with energy, action, and success.

r  Trine:  Michael Munkasey has dubbed this the “goddess aspect” because it’s so lovely. Identifying talents you may have perfected in a previous life, trines can bring you joy. There’s a nice flow of energy between planets in trine. They support and reinforce each another. But without any struggle, you might take them for granted—neither using nor developing their gifts. An unattended trine can sometimes trick you into negative behaviors.

t  Inconjunct/Quincunx:  Your quincunx planets are innately incompatible. Bringing them into harmonious expression requires constant adjustments. This can be stressful, also motivating. You’ve got to keep changing your process, opinions or attitude—which promotes highly creative solutions.

u  Opposition:  They say opposites attract—and planets in opposition are never far from each other, though they’re constantly bickering. You may be triggered into awareness of this aspect by other people who seem to resist or undermine you.  An opposition can make you feel uncertain, insecure, or discontent, until you can accept and see yourself in both energies. Typically people find it easier to identify with one side and project the other onto unsuspecting others in the outer world.

First House: Personality, physical body, beginnings. Includes the Ascendant and rules physical appearance, the image you project to others, your general outlook on life, how you start things; may describe your role in your family system, often guides your first impression of immediate environment.

Second House: Money and personal finances, sense of self-worth and basic values, personal possessions, talents.

Third House: Communication, thoughts, language skills like writing and speaking, early schooling, siblings and neighbors, short trips, coming and going around town.

Fourth House: Your home, psychological foundations and roots, family, parents, domestic life, instinctive behavior, ancestry, your connection with the past, sense of security, domestic life, real estate. conditions at the end of life.

Fifth House: Children, creativity, romance; pleasure, entertainment, self-expression; all forms of “play”, speculation, gambling, and attitude towards taking risks; hobbies, attitude towards romance, lovers as opposed to partners, attitude towards having fun.

Sixth House: Work and job (as opposed to career), daily life, attitude towards service and coworkers, helpfulness, pets, attitude towards routine and organization, how you refine and perfect your skills.

Seventh House: Partnerships, one-to-one relationships, marriage, the first marriage, the “significant other”, business partnerships, competitors, open enemies, lawyers, mediators, counselors, contracts, negotiations, agreements. clients/the public.

Eighth House: Transformations and crisis, your ability to meet and rebound from crisis and change, sexuality; sex, death and rebirth, rituals and personal growth, your partner’s resources, addictions, psychology, other people’s money, taxes, divorce/alimony, inheritance.

Ninth House: Attitude toward expanding horizons, religious beliefs and personal philosophy, higher education, long-distance travel, morals, foreign languages and cultures, personal truths, publishing, commerce, advertising, your sense of adventure.

Tenth House: Career and profession, your contribution to society, social status, public reputation, material success, how you carve out a public identity for yourself; attitude toward authority figures, parents, caregivers, bosses, governments, attitude towards responsibility, desire for achievement.

Eleventh House: Friends, groups, organizations; hopes, wishes, aspirations, personal goals; your philanthropic attitude, concern for the collective, humanity; like tenth, can bring recognition and honors for fulfilling hopes and dreams.

Twelfth House: What’s hidden beneath the surface, karmic dustbin, limiting childhood/past-life messages, self-undoing, hidden enemies, hidden weaknesses, dreams, secret affairs, lost items, hospitals and prisons, hidden strengths, spiritual studies and soul growth.

A  Sun: Our vitality and magnetism; self-identity, ego.
Roles: The Self, the Hero, the Performer, the King.

B  Moon: Intuition, emotion, nurture.
Roles: The Mother, the High Priestess, the Child.

C  Mercury: Mind; physical dexterity and mental agility.
Roles: The Thinker, the Communicator, the Student, the Trickster, the Merchant, the Thief.

D  Venus: Our capacity for pleasure, receptivity, creativity, and social connection. Also indicates our relationships, self esteem, and financial abundance.
Roles: The Lover, the Seductress, the Artist.

E  Mars: Desire, initiative, anger.
Roles: The Protector, the Athlete, the Warrior.

F  Jupiter: Luck, opportunity, expansion, higher learning, religion.
Roles: The Scholar, the Gypsy, the Traveler, the Monk, the Professor.

G  Saturn: Hard work, commitment, focus, inadequacy, leadership, suffering, loss.
Roles: The Task Master, the Grim Reaper, the Wise Old Man, the Builder, the Cynic, the Boss.

H  Uranus: Change, breakthroughs, upsets, discoveries.
Roles: The Revolutionary, the Humanitarian, the Visionary, the Snob.

I  Neptune: Imagination, spirituality, idealism, addictions, deception, compassion.
Roles: The Artist, the Romantic, the Guru, the Addict, the Martyr, the Victim.

J  Pluto: Transformation, power, psychological dynamics, helplessness.
Roles: The Terrorist, the Detective, the Psychotherapist, the Dictator, shady people.

a  Aries: Pioneering, competitive, selfish, impatient, courageous, reckless, independent, dynamic, domineering, “Me first!”

b  Taurus: Patient, stable, lazy, dependable, practical, sensual, stubborn, artistic, possessive, greedy, gentle, loyal.

c  Gemini: Intelligent, curious, adaptable, quick-witted, restless, clever, scatterbrained, lacking follow-through.

d  Cancer: Nourishing, intuitive, protective, moody, sensitive, maternal, domestic, childish, cautious, creative.

e  Leo: Proud, dignified, vain, expressive, romantic, generous, childish, overbearing, self-assured, creative.

f  Virgo: Perfection-seeking, practical, methodical, petty, critical, studious, discriminating, cautious, never satisfied.

g  Libra: Charming, sociable, peace-loving, refined, diplomatic, artistic, indecisive, apathetic, easily deterred.

h  Scorpio: Passionate, secretive, penetrating, resourceful, suspicious, manipulative, jealous, sarcastic, intolerant, determined, aware.

i  Sagittarius: Freedom-loving, philosophical, optimistic, enthusiastic, careless, impatient, talkative, a know-it-all, broadminded, athletic, honest.

j  Capricorn: Serious, responsible, practical, hardworking, stubborn, brooding, inhibited, status-conscious, domineering, unforgiving.

k  Aquarius: Progressive, individualistic, unpredictable, cold, intellectual, artistic, eccentric, shy, impersonal, scientific.

l  Pisces: Compassionate, intuitive, ungrounded, romantic, impractical, self-sacrificing, seductive, musical, artistic.