How can I ditch anti-Aphrodite vibes and bring more positive Aphrodite/ Venus into my life – something that increases good love in all areas of my life? For instance: Good positive healthy loving (platonic and romantic) relationships, increased self-esteem and self-worth, income and rapid stupendous career success. -Sophia
Every Venus sign has positive and self-defeating, shadow behaviors. The good news is, just as you can’t be standing in the sunlight and its shadow at the same time, when you’re standing in your Venus sign’s strengths, the shadows fade. And I just happen to have a list of these at the back of my book, Venus Signs, which directly answers your question! Here’s a list for your Aries Venus, which you might want to tape to your mirror, where you regularly reflect on and beautify your Venus vibes:
Venus in Aries Good Witch:
- Takes emotional risks: shares the good, bad and ugly emotions
- Honors her need for change and adventure
- Consciously chooses worthy adversaries- challenging, fun partners who empower confidence, not competition
- Learns to ask what she can give to the relationship
- Learns to fight fair
Venus in Aries Bad Witch:
- Is a love daredevil (too impulsive) or shrinking violet (too shy)
- Restless in love; loses interests easily
- Too many false starts in relationships
- Provokes arguments that chip away at happiness
- Focuses on what the relationship/partner isn’t giving her
For your specific chart, your Venus in Aries is conjunct the karmic South Node in the sixth house. Venus conjunct South Node suggests that in the past you’ve really excelled at being charming, beautiful, likable, gracious, accommodating, and a courteous partner- at being Venusian. Yet sometimes we can be so good at being Venusian that it becomes a problem. Our courtesy, our orientation toward others and how they’re doing can become so mechanical and habitual that it blocks our ability to spontaneously, authentically connect with our whole self. Or we might define ourselves through our likability, our partnerships, but not for just being our self. The added fact that the Libra North Node (in the twelfth house) is also ruled by Venus, makes this tricky. Essentially you’re returning to where you’ve already been, but this time with new understanding. It’s as if the Goddess is saying: “Let’s dance again, but this time let’s dump any bad Venus programming you picked up: like, I’m only worthy if I’m someone’s partner. Or: I live to make others happy. And let’s keep the good Venus stuff, like “I’m empathic, kind and fun to be around.”
So consider that: you’ve already been to Venus school, but this time you’re in the graduate program. Trust that you already have a very strong skill set for creating the kind of magic (fulfilment, love, money, beauty, harmony) you want. To do this, tap your Venus in Aries moxie. Venus in Aries magic is nurtured through calculated risk-taking, through taking chances on sharing yourself with the world, and developing your passions and art. And don’t forget to remember the ultimate Venus secret: Have fun! Play!
