Hello. I was born April 17, 1992. I have had lifelong issues with the power and control dynamic that shapes every human interaction. I have felt powerless and helpless throughout my young life. I need to feel respected, proud and self-sufficient but this little ram never got that and doesn’t know how to get it. Can you help? This would be the best birthday present ever! Shalom and blessings. (EG)
Power and control – Pluto square Saturn in your natal chart – does clearly define that dynamic as a foundational issue in your life. All human beings, an even higher priority for fire signs, do need to feel respected, proud and self-sufficient, the domain of the Sun and Jupiter. Over the course of your young life you have been moving ever closer to facing your inherent clash between Pluto and Saturn; this clash is now the central focus of your life from 2012 through 2017 as your progressed Sun squared your natal Saturn last year now moving ever closer to an opposition to your natal Pluto in 2016/2017. Born with Saturn in the 4th house you surely did not feel the warmth, comfort, support and generous belief in you and your future that would have buoyed you now and throughout your life. Notice that your parents described by your natal Sun (father) which quincunxes Pluto and squares both Uranus and Neptune; and your natal Moon (mother) squares Saturn and quincunxes Venus – were both unable to provide the loving support that would have naturally developed your inner pride and self-respect nor did they model for you the mature self awareness you are seeking to develop. What to do? At your 21st birthday it is time for you to commit to the life work of your Aries Sun which is to develop your own identity, self awareness, courage, and life path. Therefore, your progressed Sun aspects (described above) are the time for you to take charge of feeling respect for and pride in your inherent self as you become self-sufficient.With Libra rising and your Sun conjunct your Descendant opposite your Ascendant, it is too easy for you to expect others to give you the respect Aries must develop for themselves. Despite the difficult aspects to your natal Sun/Moon, your natal Moon does trine your Mars and sextile your Jupiter while your while your natal Sun sextiles Saturn showing you that you can self motivate, work diligently and successfully to achieve what you seek. It would be helpful to read some good descriptions of your South Node in Cancer and North Node in Capricorn which emphasize the lack of family support in your early life and the soul demand to mature into responsibility for yourself and your life achievements. I think your well-aspected Mars in your 5th house of romance, creativity and children which rules your 7th house of partnership will lead you to a successful marriage with a partner and children providing love and belonging at or near your 1st Saturn return at age 28. Meanwhile, your task is find a job that utilizes your skills, your chart ruler Venus is in your 6th house of work, as you build a career and achievements in which you can earn respect and feel pride while becoming self-sufficient. By your 30’s you will be a ram far up the mountain of your life. Happy Birthday!
I was born March 11, 1946 now living abroad in Australia. I have had 3 marriages – my first was a philanderer who saw me as boring and never enough while my second and third were both abusive. I’m feeling the effects of Uranus through my 1st house at the moment doing so much around my recently purchased home (2011) but I wonder if there may be a partner or male in my life or will it be more of the hard work and creative outlets for the rest of my life? I seem to attract men who need and want a mother whilst I want an equal partner/friend/lover but see all around me that women seem to put up with some pretty subtle forms of abuse which I won’t settle for. It can get lonely for me at times without male company to talk things over with. Regards. JN
No wonder men see you as an ideal mother figure; a result of your Moon/Mars/Saturn in Cancer. Just because you are a feminine, caring, supportive woman does not mean you are seeking a man to mother though it does mean that men who are seeking mothering will target you. Fortunately, you have left hurtful marriages, setting your sights on a partnership between equals. I am sure your Moon in Cancer, Pisces Sun/Venus/Ascendant and Neptune/Jupiter in your 7th house of partnership means you will be somewhat lonely without a partner.
Since your Moon and Mars are in Cancer in your 4th house of home, this new house is blessing and foundation for your life. Hopefully, you have a creative/artistic and/or spiritual life which gives full expression to your natal Sun/Venus conjunction in your 12th house and your natal Saturn/Pluto in the 5th house of creativity and art. Certainly, your natal chart does show marriage, due to your Venus conjunction to your Ascendant and your chart rulers in your 7th house of partnership. Natal Jupiter in your 7th house and mutable signs on your Ascendant/Descendant angles do suggest more than one marriage. Is there one more to come?
With transiting Uranus and Pluto challenging your natal Mercury/Neptune opposition, ruling your 1st and 7th houses, these last few years, that desirable marriage would not have been likely. Currently, there are encouraging signs of a possible relationship – transiting Jupiter is moving into your 5th house of romance this fall for a year, your solar arc progressed Mercury which rules your 7th house is conjuncting your natal Uranus (someone new and different from other men in your life), your progressed Venus will conjunct your natal North Node of the Moon in 3 years while it conjuncts your progressed Node this year. These aspects suggest a new relationship this year or next year which will develop gently over a couple of years. Remember that natal Jupiter in the 7th house will always offer you a relationship throughout your life; your mission has been to develop the wisdom, boundaries and inner strength to say no to the wrong relationships while saying yes to the right one. Good luck.
