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The Masculine Comes Calling

By Robert McDowell

When Dana asked me to write about my experience as a man with the Divine Feminine, I was thrilled, then nervous as a chicken passing through the shadow of an axe. Like a lot of men I know, I’m the product of centuries of negative imprinting. We’ve been taught to be brutal, determined, silent, and emotionally unavailable. For me, it’s been a long, painful, and exhilarating process to even begin to unlearn such training, and I have only been able to do so with the powerful guidance of a woman who embodies the Divine Feminine.

She demands nothing less than absolute devotion. I’ve had to learn how to listen, to love as meditation, to give her what she wants, not what I think she wants.

Time and again in my ongoing training, I’m reminded of an ancient story in which a good king is charged by a conqueror to discover what it is that a woman truly desires. He is given a year to find the answer or forfeit his lands and life. Relentlessly, the king travels the world interviewing everyone he meets. People tell him that a woman most wants money, power, love, or solitude. The king knows in his heart that none of these are correct, and he approaches his foe’s castle with a feeling of hopelessness. But on his last night on the road, he meets a hideous looking woman who promises to tell him the correct answer if he’ll promise to grant her wish. The king agrees, of course, and the hag (who will soon become a beautiful woman) tells him the correct answer. A woman wants her will to have its way.

When that happens, beauty awakens and men are liberated from their evil intentions. Working towards this awareness, I wrote this poem.

 

If Only Men Truly Listened

If only men truly listened
To everything their women say.

I said, if only men truly listened
To everything their women say,

Maybe they’d be liberated
From the heartbreaking way

Their fathers distanced
Themselves from a woman’s eye

That watched and waited
Patiently with hardly a sigh

For any sign that he’d awakened
To her power and majesty,

Like falling to his knees, humbled,
Then looking up at her to pray.

 

My own awakening came during a long, late night conversation with my estranged beloved. Suddenly inspired, I got down on my knees before her, kissed her feet, looked up into her eyes, and surrendered. In a heartbeat, she saw it, and so did I. I felt liberated, devoted, and happier than I’ve ever been. Submitting to the Divine Feminine means just that. Surrender without resentment. It means recognizing Venus in every woman I see and especially in the woman I obey. I am Her servant. Always.

 

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About Robert McDowell

Robert McDowell is the author of five books of poetry and the Amazon.com bestselling Poetry as Spiritual Practice: Reading, Writing, and Using Poetry in Your Daily Rituals, Aspirations, and Intentions (Free Press/Simon & Schuster 2008).

Comments

  1. B says

    Aug 2, 2012 at 3:03 am

    Went right into the heartspace! This spoke so strongly to what I’ve been working on in regards my inner male/female relationship with the wish that I too will have the honour of a sacred partner to accompany on the path. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I’ve forwarded it on to some other women friends and my daughter.

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  2. Margaret Bobalek King says

    Aug 1, 2012 at 7:28 pm

    Enthroning a woman, understanding that what she most desires is that you as her man let you do her will is seen early in courtship (sometimes) when you are totaly in love, and as in the case of my marrraige late in life after a long marriage when many battles of the will have been fought and many surrenders on both sides have been made. My man has at long last arrived at this fact of life in many, but not all things. – your old friend, Margaret Bobalek King

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  3. Goddess kerry Keegan says

    Jul 31, 2012 at 6:11 pm

    Robert,
    Thank you thank you thank you for writing your experience. This brings me to tears for so many reasons….. For the many trying attempts to describe something similar to my males friends, for the pleading with them to just try this, truly honor the divine feline by first honor it in me, then in you, then in us…….. I would love to have your permission to repost this article on our site http://www.presentjourneys.com…. soon to be live!

    Blessings

    Kerry

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  4. Deborah says

    Jul 31, 2012 at 11:27 am

    Dear Robert,
    Go and clone yourself as soon as possible *!*

    Thank you,
    Women Of Earth

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    • Eleonore says

      Jul 31, 2012 at 7:06 pm

      I completely agree…clone yourself times a million…we so need you everywhere…I hold the vision you are teaching this to all the men you come in contact with…thank you for your beautiful words!

      Reply
  5. Don Doornbos says

    Jul 31, 2012 at 9:15 am

    Reminiscent of David Deida’s writings. Beautiful!

    Reply
  6. Dr. Dana Lynne Curry says

    Jul 31, 2012 at 7:35 am

    OMG Robert! Your post gave me chills! I do a spiritual blog (funfreeME.blogspot.com) and always reference this site 2x per month around the moon cycles and put a link to the rituals and inspiring posts. Wow!
    Thanks so much. Your woman is a lucky, blessed being!
    ;0) dana

    Reply
  7. Julie says

    Jul 30, 2012 at 4:28 am

    Beautiful and inspiring! We can feel that this post comes from the heart… Thank you !

    Reply

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Astrologers use a variety of house systems, or methods of dividing up the sky into twelve sections. I use the Porphyry house system; another popular house system is Placidus (this is the default on https://astro.com). If the chart I send you looks different from what you are used to seeing, then likely a system other than Porphyry was used. Whole signs, Equal House, Regiomantus, and Campanus are examples of other systems. If you find all of this confusing, do not worry. It is likely not critical to your report.

m  Conjunction:  Like peas in a pod, planets in conjunction tend to come from the same place. They act together, but it’s also hard to tell them apart. This aspect can increase talent, focus, and intensity (“two are better than one”). Or one planet can disappear as the other dominates. Their connection feels so natural, it’s easy to think everyone blends these planetary energies just as you do—but mostly, they don’t!.

p  Sextile:  Planets in sextile are compatible, though without any fireworks. This aspect doesn’t demand your attention. It quietly presents an opportunity. You can join these archetypal forces. Donna Cunningham has called this the “Oh, that!” aspect, because that’s generally what her clients say when she describes their benefits.  To get the most from sextiles you need to actively work them.

q  Square:  Squares are wild and wonderful—but difficult too. The power struggle between these planets was likely defined in your youth, when they were impossibly challenging. People are usually aware of their squares. They force the issues that make you to grow. And that’s their gift. They ensure you learn your lessons. When you rise to the occasion, they bless you with energy, action, and success.

r  Trine:  Michael Munkasey has dubbed this the “goddess aspect” because it’s so lovely. Identifying talents you may have perfected in a previous life, trines can bring you joy. There’s a nice flow of energy between planets in trine. They support and reinforce each another. But without any struggle, you might take them for granted—neither using nor developing their gifts. An unattended trine can sometimes trick you into negative behaviors.

t  Inconjunct/Quincunx:  Your quincunx planets are innately incompatible. Bringing them into harmonious expression requires constant adjustments. This can be stressful, also motivating. You’ve got to keep changing your process, opinions or attitude—which promotes highly creative solutions.

u  Opposition:  They say opposites attract—and planets in opposition are never far from each other, though they’re constantly bickering. You may be triggered into awareness of this aspect by other people who seem to resist or undermine you.  An opposition can make you feel uncertain, insecure, or discontent, until you can accept and see yourself in both energies. Typically people find it easier to identify with one side and project the other onto unsuspecting others in the outer world.

First House: Personality, physical body, beginnings. Includes the Ascendant and rules physical appearance, the image you project to others, your general outlook on life, how you start things; may describe your role in your family system, often guides your first impression of immediate environment.

Second House: Money and personal finances, sense of self-worth and basic values, personal possessions, talents.

Third House: Communication, thoughts, language skills like writing and speaking, early schooling, siblings and neighbors, short trips, coming and going around town.

Fourth House: Your home, psychological foundations and roots, family, parents, domestic life, instinctive behavior, ancestry, your connection with the past, sense of security, domestic life, real estate. conditions at the end of life.

Fifth House: Children, creativity, romance; pleasure, entertainment, self-expression; all forms of “play”, speculation, gambling, and attitude towards taking risks; hobbies, attitude towards romance, lovers as opposed to partners, attitude towards having fun.

Sixth House: Work and job (as opposed to career), daily life, attitude towards service and coworkers, helpfulness, pets, attitude towards routine and organization, how you refine and perfect your skills.

Seventh House: Partnerships, one-to-one relationships, marriage, the first marriage, the “significant other”, business partnerships, competitors, open enemies, lawyers, mediators, counselors, contracts, negotiations, agreements. clients/the public.

Eighth House: Transformations and crisis, your ability to meet and rebound from crisis and change, sexuality; sex, death and rebirth, rituals and personal growth, your partner’s resources, addictions, psychology, other people’s money, taxes, divorce/alimony, inheritance.

Ninth House: Attitude toward expanding horizons, religious beliefs and personal philosophy, higher education, long-distance travel, morals, foreign languages and cultures, personal truths, publishing, commerce, advertising, your sense of adventure.

Tenth House: Career and profession, your contribution to society, social status, public reputation, material success, how you carve out a public identity for yourself; attitude toward authority figures, parents, caregivers, bosses, governments, attitude towards responsibility, desire for achievement.

Eleventh House: Friends, groups, organizations; hopes, wishes, aspirations, personal goals; your philanthropic attitude, concern for the collective, humanity; like tenth, can bring recognition and honors for fulfilling hopes and dreams.

Twelfth House: What’s hidden beneath the surface, karmic dustbin, limiting childhood/past-life messages, self-undoing, hidden enemies, hidden weaknesses, dreams, secret affairs, lost items, hospitals and prisons, hidden strengths, spiritual studies and soul growth.

A  Sun: Our vitality and magnetism; self-identity, ego.
Roles: The Self, the Hero, the Performer, the King.

B  Moon: Intuition, emotion, nurture.
Roles: The Mother, the High Priestess, the Child.

C  Mercury: Mind; physical dexterity and mental agility.
Roles: The Thinker, the Communicator, the Student, the Trickster, the Merchant, the Thief.

D  Venus: Our capacity for pleasure, receptivity, creativity, and social connection. Also indicates our relationships, self esteem, and financial abundance.
Roles: The Lover, the Seductress, the Artist.

E  Mars: Desire, initiative, anger.
Roles: The Protector, the Athlete, the Warrior.

F  Jupiter: Luck, opportunity, expansion, higher learning, religion.
Roles: The Scholar, the Gypsy, the Traveler, the Monk, the Professor.

G  Saturn: Hard work, commitment, focus, inadequacy, leadership, suffering, loss.
Roles: The Task Master, the Grim Reaper, the Wise Old Man, the Builder, the Cynic, the Boss.

H  Uranus: Change, breakthroughs, upsets, discoveries.
Roles: The Revolutionary, the Humanitarian, the Visionary, the Snob.

I  Neptune: Imagination, spirituality, idealism, addictions, deception, compassion.
Roles: The Artist, the Romantic, the Guru, the Addict, the Martyr, the Victim.

J  Pluto: Transformation, power, psychological dynamics, helplessness.
Roles: The Terrorist, the Detective, the Psychotherapist, the Dictator, shady people.

a  Aries: Pioneering, competitive, selfish, impatient, courageous, reckless, independent, dynamic, domineering, “Me first!”

b  Taurus: Patient, stable, lazy, dependable, practical, sensual, stubborn, artistic, possessive, greedy, gentle, loyal.

c  Gemini: Intelligent, curious, adaptable, quick-witted, restless, clever, scatterbrained, lacking follow-through.

d  Cancer: Nourishing, intuitive, protective, moody, sensitive, maternal, domestic, childish, cautious, creative.

e  Leo: Proud, dignified, vain, expressive, romantic, generous, childish, overbearing, self-assured, creative.

f  Virgo: Perfection-seeking, practical, methodical, petty, critical, studious, discriminating, cautious, never satisfied.

g  Libra: Charming, sociable, peace-loving, refined, diplomatic, artistic, indecisive, apathetic, easily deterred.

h  Scorpio: Passionate, secretive, penetrating, resourceful, suspicious, manipulative, jealous, sarcastic, intolerant, determined, aware.

i  Sagittarius: Freedom-loving, philosophical, optimistic, enthusiastic, careless, impatient, talkative, a know-it-all, broadminded, athletic, honest.

j  Capricorn: Serious, responsible, practical, hardworking, stubborn, brooding, inhibited, status-conscious, domineering, unforgiving.

k  Aquarius: Progressive, individualistic, unpredictable, cold, intellectual, artistic, eccentric, shy, impersonal, scientific.

l  Pisces: Compassionate, intuitive, ungrounded, romantic, impractical, self-sacrificing, seductive, musical, artistic.