Dear Aphrodite, A man I have been involved with has just moved on because he cannot give me what I want (he receives lots of adoration from women, he’s a presenter, but one particular girl got between us and his attention went to her). How do I move on? Even though I have lots of friends, I feel lost without a warm hearted connection. When I am out, socially, I tend to be distinctive and egocentric to get attention, but it’s not the right soulful kind that I yearn for. Help me Aphrodite! -Andrea
Dear Andrea, Your Venus, your relationship and social style, is in Leo, a colorful, magnanimous and fun-loving sign. You can create drama and theater to get attention- as any Leo planet can – hence, the love triangle dynamic between you and others. But notice the quality of attention you’re putting out there, because with Venus, what you advertise is what you receive. Attention-seeking behaviors generate attention-seeking partners (and eventually they will seek that attention elsewhere).
Is your energy saying, “I need you to notice me?” When that “notice me” energy is having fun, is centered in its own self-confidence and self-esteem, your magnetic draw pulls others to you like a moth to a warm, mutually appreciative, flame. But when a desire for attention and adoration is need-full it dominates your entire being, and your natural charisma and warmth takes a back seat to ego games.
Sadly, fear and insecurity is often at the heart of a big, drama-filled, Leo love fail. When we we’re so afraid that we won’t be loved, we sabotage the very thing we want- love. This is a Venus problem and while each sign does it differently (a Venus in Taurus might eat her way through the refrigerator, for instance) the results are the same: No love for you.
The next time you’re in a group social situation, try this: Look for the most soulful person in the room. Are they the one taking up the most space, being the loudest, coveting others’ attention? My guess is no. They’re probably more of a sitting-on-the-sidelines person, thoughtfully engaging in intimate conversation with one or a few people. This is the type of person you want to connect with. Mystic teacher Stuart Wilde said, “Love is a quality of attention, a way of focusing on someone.” You don’t need attention, you want a quality of attention. So take a cue. Dare to pull back a little. Focus on your intention. Mentally affirm: “I know I am deserving and worthy of love. I attract soulful people to my light.” Then showcase just how confident and gracious of a Leo Queen Bee you are by generously creating the space for others to show you who they are. — Jessica Shepherd | Astrologer & Author | Health Coach
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